How to Please A Fussy Newborn

The baby calming solutions are ever challenging

There are no unique formula for comforting a crying baby

The information and advices are part of it but not everything

It largely depends on how well the mother & baby are connected right from womb

A well bonded mother can better understand why is her baby unhappy

Komal Gupta

​Published on

21 May, 2019

The experience and emotion cannot be described in words, perhaps can only be seen in the eyes of a mother. Every mother can relate to the emotion: "She is so tiny and delicate" !! While feeling this, tears of happiness and contentment do roll down.


It all continues till the moment she begins to cry. First ever thought of a parent, seeing their new born cry, is that she might be hungry. And then the never ending process of crying and fussiness begins. What if the new born cries even after being fed? Somehow the feeling of parents shifts to anxiety, fear or tension, as to how to comfort the new born in the best possible ways. .

A new born may cry for any sort of reason and become fussy. Sometimes it may be easy to calm them down. However there are other times when it becomes almost impossible to comfort them. Babies communicate their hunger, pain, sleep, fear, etc. through their cries. As a mother, we need to differentiate and interpret the varied sounds of the baby cries. It is one of the most difficult challenges of a new mother to soothe their crying & fussy baby . It becomes even more exhausting when the baby cries even after being fed or changed.


We quickly get irritated or panic if we are unable to soothe our child. It may be very stressful too . As a parent, it is our job to understand what our child really needs when she is crying .


During the phase of pregnancy , we the mothers receive a lot of information regarding fussiness of new born. Every relative or a friend gives us advices related to the same. They share their experiences with us and guide us about the do's and do not's in such situations . It does partially help us to understand the phenomenon of the baby cries. However, the experiences vary from mother to mother. It only takes patience and practice to find out what actually works and what does not for the fussy baby. This becomes easier if the mother is well bonded with the baby right from womb to mindful breastfeeding.


Various common ways to soothe a crying and fussy baby may include the followings:


  • Feeding : The foremost concern of a parent is to see if the baby is hungry . If so , feed the baby , but make sure that the baby is not overfed, as it may also make the baby uncomfortable. The baby should be fed in the required amount .


  • Swaddling : Wrap the baby in a light weight blanket with her arms across her chest . It provides a calming effect to the crying baby . Swaddled babies  tend to sleep longer. Try to swaddle the baby to help her feel secured.


  • Colic/Indigestion : If a baby cries for no apparent reason, then colic may be the cause. If this is so, lay your baby face down on your forearm, cradle her close to your body, and while slightly pressing her stomach with your other arm, rock her back and forth . It soothes the baby from colic as this position helps in releasing the trapped gas from baby’s stomach.


  • Calming sound : Many a times, playing a lullaby or just the voice of her mother or a gentle humming can prove to be enough to calm down a fussy baby. The baby can recognise voice of mother right from womb.


  • Diaper change : Babies tend to wet their diapers a lot. This may make them feel uncomfortable and they start crying to let us know that it is their diaper changing time .


  • Dressing : Remember to dress up your baby according to the environment in the most comfortable clothes. Layers of clothes annoy the new born . Clothes should be light weight and environment friendly.

How my husband helped


Apart from these well known facts, we experience individual situations and deal with them in our own ways . For instance, whenever my baby used to cry without any apparent reason even after trying out every possible way, my husband pretend to cry in a tone louder than the baby. To our surprise, every time he did this, it caught our baby's attention and he would stop crying and start to stare at his father in an amused look. This was my husband's way to calm him down. Also , he used to clap in front of our baby just to break his motion of crying . Our baby reacted positively to his tricks . Since my husband lives away from home because of his job, we recorded his voice and used to play in front of our crying baby . It did wonders for us in soothing him.  


On the other hand , I figured out that massaging my baby made him comfortable and relaxed. Whenever I used to sense his fussiness, I used to massage him gently and play with his legs. This again helped us, as he would begin to play and laugh. He would also immediately stop crying the moment he was rocked or took out for a walk. We made it a routine to take him out for a walk twice a day so as to change his environment. His fussiness used to shift to cheerfulness with these methods .


Staying calm is the only way to deal with a fussy baby. If we get upset, our baby cries more. We need to be patient. Sometimes babies cry for no reason in the middle of the night and we can do nothing about it. Just hold him close to our chest, swaddle him and hum the music or voice that calms her down . Only you know your baby the best, the ways in which she calms down , thus, make sure you treat your fussy baby in the way she needs to be treated and loved .

About Komal Gupta


From a working woman to a full-time mother, I am loving and living every phase of this new life. Leaving job was my decision as I wanted to be with my child during the early stages of his life. I wanted to witness his every action, from first cry to first word. I am happily employed as a full-time mother, whose remunerations are my child's hugs, kisses and laugh. 


This is personal experience and point of view of Mrs Komal Gupta as a mother. Happy Motherhood does not take responsibility for the contents and those not necessarily represent point of view of Happy Motherhood.

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