How to Please A Fussy Newborn
The baby calming solutions are ever challenging
There are no unique formula for comforting a crying baby
The information and advices are part of it but not everything
It largely depends on how well the mother & baby are connected right from womb
A well bonded mother can better understand why is her baby unhappy
21 May, 2019
The experience and emotion cannot be described in words, perhaps can only be seen in the eyes of a mother. Every mother can relate to the emotion: "She is so tiny and delicate" !! While feeling this, tears of happiness and contentment do roll down.
It all continues till the moment she begins to cry. First ever thought of a parent, seeing their new born cry, is that she might be hungry. And then the never ending process of crying and fussiness begins. What if the new born cries even after being fed? Somehow the feeling of parents shifts to anxiety, fear or tension, as to how to comfort the new born in the best possible ways. .
A new born may cry for any sort of reason and become fussy. Sometimes it may be easy to calm them down. However there are other times when it becomes almost impossible to comfort them. Babies communicate their hunger, pain, sleep, fear, etc. through their cries. As a mother, we need to differentiate and interpret the varied sounds of the baby cries. It is one of the most difficult challenges of a new mother to soothe their crying & fussy baby . It becomes even more exhausting when the baby cries even after being fed or changed.
We quickly get irritated or panic if we are unable to soothe our child. It may be very stressful too . As a parent, it is our job to understand what our child really needs when she is crying .
During the phase of pregnancy , we the mothers receive a lot of information regarding fussiness of new born. Every relative or a friend gives us advices related to the same. They share their experiences with us and guide us about the do's and do not's in such situations . It does partially help us to understand the phenomenon of the baby cries. However, the experiences vary from mother to mother. It only takes patience and practice to find out what actually works and what does not for the fussy baby. This becomes easier if the mother is well bonded with the baby right from womb to mindful breastfeeding.
Various common ways to soothe a crying and fussy baby may include the followings:
Feeding : The foremost concern of a parent is to see if the baby is hungry . If so , feed the baby , but make sure that the baby is not overfed, as it may also make the baby uncomfortable. The baby should be fed in the required amount .
Swaddling : Wrap the baby in a light weight blanket with her arms across her chest . It provides a calming effect to the crying baby . Swaddled babies tend to sleep longer. Try to swaddle the baby to help her feel secured.
Colic/Indigestion : If a baby cries for no apparent reason, then colic may be the cause. If this is so, lay your baby face down on your forearm, cradle her close to your body, and while slightly pressing her stomach with your other arm, rock her back and forth . It soothes the baby from colic as this position helps in releasing the trapped gas from baby’s stomach.
Calming sound : Many a times, playing a lullaby or just the voice of her mother or a gentle humming can prove to be enough to calm down a fussy baby. The baby can recognise voice of mother right from womb.
Diaper change : Babies tend to wet their diapers a lot. This may make them feel uncomfortable and they start crying to let us know that it is their diaper changing time .
Dressing : Remember to dress up your baby according to the environment in the most comfortable clothes. Layers of clothes annoy the new born . Clothes should be light weight and environment friendly.