There was a time when we lived in huge joint families, when children were taken care of but just by parents but grand parents, uncles and aunts and always had siblings and cousins around to play with them and keep them engaged. But in today's times of small nuclear families, where all children see around them is their parents most of the time, they tend to get more sensitive and then comes the need to handle them more delicately and the role of responsive parenting grows tremendously.
8 December, 2019
“As a new mother I learnt how to take care of my child not just physically but emotionally too”
Sensitive and responsive parenting require deep family bond and interactions and where parents are aware of their children's physical and emotional needs (usually emotional more) and respond appropriately and consistently. Sensitive parents are "in tune" with their children 's behaviour and understand how to deal with them in difficult and tricky situations and show love when their child is in most need of love and support.
One of the first experiences of interactions babies have with their parents is through babbling, facial expressions and gestures and its duty of parents to respond to these gestures appropriately so that babies can understand that they are loved and cared, and this leads to the early and proper development of brain and senses.
When my daughter was seven or eight months old, she loved touching and feeling my face in a loving way and when I did the same to her, she was happy and smiled back lovingly to me. This small gesture I know made her feel loved and cared. I often played with her giggling and cuddling her just to make her feel loved and cared.
The more you spend time with your little one, the more you understand what their needs are not just physical like feeding and bathing but emotional too. It helps in understanding their moods, reactions and behavior. The more you watch them, the more you know about them and a stronger bond develops.
As they grow from infants to toddlers their needs changes both physically as well as emotionally and that is the time parents need to understand actions, moods and behavior and correct them when they are wrong for shaping them into bright and positive individuals.
They need more and more time, so I had appointed a full-time maid for my house hold chores when my daughter was a toddler as I wanted to spend most of my time with her and give her my undivided attention and be able match my energy with her. I played with her, danced with her and took her to the park everyday because I knew outdoor activities were very important for all around development. I had decided to not introduce technology to her till she was three. To make her learn the rhymes I used to sing the rhymes to her with actions and she just imitated me making her learn very fast. I had bought many books for her since she was six months old. Every night at bed time I used to read stories to her, and she listened to it intently. By the time she was three she knew the names of all the characters and would demand for a new story everyday.
Showing unconditional love is most important. Showing love at times when they don't deserve it makes a lot of difference. Once my daughter was angry and to show her anger, she had hit one of her friends.
Instead of getting angry and scolding her, I just lifted her in my arms hugged her lovingly and told her it was wrong. It made a lot of difference and she never repeated that again. I had always made it a point to reward her for her nice behavior. I used to tell her that she would get extra play time at park if she did not cry when I dropped her to school and she loved her play time and so much really obeyed me.
I on my part always fulfilled all my promises whether it was about her play time or rewarding her with her favorite candy which made her realize the importance of good behavior.
Unconditional love, spending more time and understanding the gestures is the key to responsive parenting and even makes a stronger parent child bond.
About Priyanka Rai
I am a dental surgeon, an army wife and a mother of a 30 months old daughter grooming her round the clock. Writing is my passion and when not writing I love to spend my time in the company of books and my daughter.My life changed completely two and a half years ago when my daughter was born. From being a working woman to a full-time mother was a tremendous transition but I cherish every moment of it. From the moment when I held her first till the time, I walked her to playschool every moment has been sheer bliss. I love talking to her, reading books to her and capturing her different moods and moments.
This is personal experience and point of view of Mrs Priyanka Rai as a mother. Happy Motherhood does not take responsibility for the contents and those not necessarily represent point of view of Happy Motherhood